“Ah yes, I desperately want to drug my baby!” Said no parent ever, right?! No matter which parenting philosophy you identify with, medicating children, rightly, remains an area of resistance for most parents.
And yet, sometimes it feels like GP’s think parents are queuing up, desperate to pump their children full of drugs. Perhaps there’s a demographic I have yet to meet?
In my experience, most parents will consider the use of paracetamol and ibuprofen when their child is really suffering after their immunisations, with a virus or with teething.
Approaching the GP for help with ailments such as reflux, colic and allergies however, is not something taken lightly. I haven’t spoken to a parent yet who wouldn’t prefer to be able to comfort and heal their child without needing a doctor.
Which is why it never fails to surprise and disappoint me when I hear about the reception many allergy and reflux parents receive at the doctors office.
I had hoped that my personal experience of a less than compassionate GP (who told me that my baby was being manipulative, making himself sick for attention, was just too lazy to eat food and wanted Neocate because he was too stubborn to try food) was extremely rare.
I chalked that experience up to Dr (insert colourful and offensive adjectives here instead of his name) having a bad day and simply vowed never to ask for his professional opinion ever again…
That said, I do worry how that sort of behaviour might affect other parents. Especially first time parents who are in the early stages of their allergy baby journey. After the days, weeks or months of struggling to avoid medicating their child, having to encounter an additional barrier of being belittled seems absurd to me.
Fortunately, that was an isolated experience for us. Most of the doctors we’ve encountered are compassionate and committed to helping our son.
Truthfully, there are only a certain number of times that a parent should shy away from getting their child help. And if that help takes the shape of medication, then so be it. After all, no one would dream of denying a child who needs glasses that prescription! There would be no parent shaming because the wouldn’t tolerate their child being unable to see. And I don’t hear people worrying about their child becoming dependent on their glasses!
Have you had a positive experience asking for help at the doctors office? Or were you made to feel like you were asking for the keys to a crystal meth den?
Xx Allergy Mama